For all the things we do as couples, whether it’s a date night, sharing our hearts, or intimate time, it’s imperative to “save some” for our relationships. If we don’t, it’s so easy to start down a slippery slope of bitterness and resentment when love needs aren’t met.
When it’s time to connect as a couple, my husband and I haven’t always been in sync with our time, desire and energy levels. We have polar opposite biological clocks; I am a morning person and he’s a night person. When I want to talk to him first thing in the morning, he’s not the slightest bit interested. When he wants to work on business stuff with me late at night, I’m not feeling it. We have also struggled withtrying to watch a movie together because I often fall asleep thirty minutes into the movie and begin waking up as the credits are rolling. Let’s just say, that doesn’t make for a good date night!
So the other night I told my husband, “I love you”, and he said, “I love you too”. I then asked him, “Do you love me more than you love cars?” He laughed because he and I both know he has an INSANE passion for sports cars! He then joked and said, “It depends on whether it’s a multi-million dollar dream car or not!” I looked at him crazy and he said, “Yes, I love you more than I love cars.” He then added, “You are an APPRECIATING asset and cars are DEPRECIATING assets.”
Oftentimes in relationships, you can be hard-pressed to find people you can really trust. At first glance, people may have the appearance of being trust-worthy but unfortunately, you later find that’s not the case. However, there are some genuinely trust-worthy people out there. You may be one of them or blessed to be in relationship with someone who is. Here are seven trustworthy traits I've observed within my own personal relationships.
It’s wonderful to hear how special you are; it’s another to SEE and experience it. Trustworthy people are deliberate in communicating that their relationships are a priority. Where and how they spend their time, energy and resources reflect that.
Sometimes we all struggle with discontentment in our lives. We may think if we just had more money, a bigger house, nicer car, or better body, THEN we’d be happier and content. But, what happens when you become discontent with the one you love? Here are some ways to help you overcome discontentment in your relationship:
• Guard your Senses. It’s important to guard against what you look at, listen to, think about, or even touch. Maybe it’s the flirty co-worker who regularly compliments you with a twinkle in their eye or the hug that lasts a little too long. Maybe it’s the TV program, book or magazine that quietly whispers the fun you could be having elsewhere. Whatever the source, guard your senses and be alert to things that breed discontentment in your relationship.
How would you express your love if TODAY was your last chance to love? Would you say, “I love you” one more time before walking out the door? Would you come home a little earlier, stay up a little later, snuggle a little closer just to let them know? Would you put aside your work, TV remote and smart devices to give them your undivided attention? Who in your life needs to know how much you appreciate them, how valuable they are, and how they mean the world to you? What if for reasons beyond your control, you didn’t get the chance to express your love tomorrow? Don’t make the mistake of taking the beautiful relationships in your life for granted. Make sure the person(s) that you love can see, hear, touch and feel it TODAY while you still have the chance.
How can YOU express your love today?
The love of my life and I have just celebrated 24 years of marriage this week! Where did the time go? Sure, there have been ups and downs, good times and bad, but I’m so thankful the good times have far out-weighed the bad.
So what are five keys things that have made our love endure over the years?
Taking time to nurture our intimate relationships is critical. A healthy sex life has been said to be the “glue” to help keep our marriages strong and healthy. But with the hustle and bustle of our lives, it can be a real challenge to make and keep this area a priority. However, with a little know how and advanced planning, we can come out winning in our intimate relationships.
So what are some common intimacy distractions and the solutions to increase intimacy?
You may have spent the past several weeks cleaning, shopping, cooking, and entertaining others over the holidays. You’re thankful for the opportunity to serve and give the way you have, but now it’s time to refresh and recharge YOU! To continue giving and serving others, we have to remember the importance of taking care of ourselves, and to re-fuel our own tanks. Failure to do so can lead to hidden resentment, exhaustion or burn-out.
So what are some ways we can recharge and take care of ourselves?
Playing the silent treatment can be very harmful and damaging in our relationships. You know how it goes: your spouse offends you or does something to make you angry and you retaliate with the silent treatment. This can lead to a breakdown in communication and next thing you know, you’re not speaking to each other for days or weeks! This can erode trust and intimacy in our relationships.
We can find ourselves in this situation when we don’t speak up right away when our spouse offends us. Even though we don’t always have to call ‘foul’ on every little thing, there are times when we need to bring things to their attention. If not, that “little issue” can brew into a full blown offense: leading to hurt, bitterness, and resentment.
Today was a really rotten, good for nothing, kind of day. The kind of day where you just want to go to bed, pull the covers overhead, cry yourself to sleep, and be done with it. But I didn’t get that chance; no, all because of the self-less love of my eight-year-old son. He impacted my life forever with these six tender words: “Mommy, can I pray for you?” Wow, for real? My son has said his prayers at night and before meals, and he’s been the recipient of my prayers for him, but tonight I was on the receiving end of a child’s prayer. What a blessing.
Most of us have experienced the crazy cycle of disrespect and lack of love from one time or another in our marriages, and if you haven’t, then you haven’t been married long enough! It starts when one spouse says or does something that was unkind, unloving, or downright disrespectful. Next thing you know, the other spouse responds similarly. And here we go – the vicious cycle begins!
In our marriages, we often make a critical mistake: we stop dating our spouse. This is especially true after we become parents. As husband and wives, we’re juggling careers, children, households, and outside commitments. With that kind of hectic schedule, we’re lucky to even get a kiss in the morning, not to mention a date night!
If we want to keep our marriages strong and healthy, we have to make dating our spouse a priority. So, how do we do that?
Today, relationships have to work really hard to remain strong and healthy. However, with determination and commitment, couples can ensure their relationship will be successful and resilient by applying the following five key principles.