The love of my life and I have just celebrated 24 years of marriage this week! Where did the time go? Sure, there have been ups and downs, good times and bad, but I’m so thankful the good times have far out-weighed the bad.
So what are five keys things that have made our love endure over the years?
Faith - Our faith in God has become the foundation of our relationship. Understanding His divine plan for marriage and what it means to honor, cherish, and love one another has become paramount.
Passion - Passion has a way of being its own driving force in a relationship. It’s the motivator, the encourager, and the “feeling” part of how we love. It communicates “I love you” in living color. It’s often tangible and undeniable when experienced. When present, passion keeps the relationship exciting and fresh. In its absence, the relationship can grow stale and routine. So when possible, mix things up a bit and keep each other guessing!
Commitment - When passion wanes, you better have a good dose of commitment! It’s the decision to keep loving, respecting, communicating, and meeting the needs of your mate even when you don’t always feel like it or when you feel they’re undeserving. After all, what if God lost his commitment to love us when we’ve been undeserving? For with commitment, you continue saying with both your words AND actions, “I still do”.
Friendship - It really helps when you actually like the person you’re in a relationship with. There were times when we didn’t always like each other very much. But through perseverance and out of our commitment to one another, we continued to work on our friendship. We find things we mutually enjoy and find happiness in one another’s company. We capitalize on what we have in common while minimizing our differences.
Forgiveness - In 24 years of marriage, we've had countless opportunities to offend and wound one another. But we've made a conscious effort to forgive. Forgiveness hasn't always happened right away; sometimes it’s happened in layers over time. But giving each other the gift of forgiveness continues to give back to us over and over again.
So today I salute and honor my husband for taking this wild and adventurous ride with me. Thanks for the love, support, and permission to be my authentic self; I love you. Here’s to the next 24 years!