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Make It Last Forever: Going the Distance in Marriage

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The love of my life and I have just celebrated 24 years of marriage this week!  Where did the time go? Sure, there have been ups and downs, good times and bad, but I’m so thankful the good times have far out-weighed the bad.  

So what are five keys things that have made our love endure over the years?

Faith - Our faith in God has become the foundation of our relationship.  Understanding His divine plan for marriage and what it means to honor, cherish, and love one another has become paramount.

Passion - Passion has a way of being its own driving force in a relationship. It’s the motivator, the encourager, and the “feeling” part of how we love.  It communicates “I love you” in living color.  It’s often tangible and undeniable when experienced.  When present, passion keeps the relationship exciting and fresh.  In its absence, the relationship can grow stale and routine.   So when possible, mix things up a bit and keep each other guessing!

Commitment - When passion wanes, you better have a good dose of commitment!  It’s the decision to keep loving, respecting, communicating, and meeting the needs of your mate even when you don’t always feel like it or when you feel they’re undeserving.  After all, what if God lost his commitment to love us when we’ve been undeserving?  For with commitment, you continue saying with both your words AND actions, “I still do”.  

Friendship - It really helps when you actually like the person you’re in a relationship with.  There were times when we didn’t always like each other very much.  But through perseverance and out of our commitment to one another, we continued to work on our friendship.  We find things we mutually enjoy and find happiness in one another’s company.  We capitalize on what we have in common while minimizing our differences.

Forgiveness - In 24 years of marriage, we've had countless opportunities to offend and wound one another.  But we've made a conscious effort to forgive.  Forgiveness hasn't always happened right away; sometimes it’s happened in layers over time.  But giving each other the gift of forgiveness continues to give back to us over and over again. 

So today I salute and honor my husband for taking this wild and adventurous ride with me. Thanks for the love, support, and permission to be my authentic self; I love you.  Here’s to the next 24 years!

 

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Ginger Finney is a Certified Relationship Coach and President of Harmony Life Solutions. Harmony Life Solutions (HLS) provides professional coaching services and resources for women and families. Ginger brings more than twenty years of marriage and family experience to her practice, and embraces the opportunity to see her clients thrive in their relationships. www.harmonylifesolutions.org. © 2015, Ginger Finney. All rights reserved.

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    Betty Evans Thursday, 06 February 2014

    Congratulations Ginger on your 24 years of marriage. Your post is so spot on. I am working on 45 so I have many of these in my testimony on how we made it last this long. To God be the Glory!

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    Latita Fisher Thursday, 06 February 2014

    Great post Ginger! Congratulations on 24 years of marriage!

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    Dionne Edmond Thursday, 06 February 2014

    Congratulations Ginger!!! I love hearing of marriages that are blessed with Joy as they grow older together.

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    Francinia Friday, 07 February 2014

    I love your FIVE KEYS to sustaining a successful marriage!! Happy Anniversary, Ginger!

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    Ginger Finney Saturday, 08 February 2014

    Thanks everyone for the Anniversary Wishes!

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